Keeping In Touch When They’ve All Left Home

Keeping In Touch When They’ve All Left home

The Bravewriter Facebook page posed an interesting question a few days ago. I posted my response but also wanted to elaborate more here.
A question for moms with grown kids:

How do you keep up with everyone? How frequently do you talk to your kids and by what means?

As regular readers will know, we are a crazy-blended family with ages from 11 months through to 31. Most of our children have left home to pursue their adult lives. Only Falcon is left and he is 16.5yo, completing Yr 11 at home. Strangely enough, Falcon is the only one we use Facebook with. I generally send him a PM to remind him of activities, chores or to ask him to make me a cuppa. Bumples lives with us and he is 11 months old so there’s a while yet before he launches into the wider world. It’s all happened so quickly! One year I felt like our house was ridiculously busy and the next few years and they’re all gone!

Just as my relationship with each child was different when we homeschooled, so it is now that they are adults. And so we have different ways and times with each of them.…

Coconut Pancakes with Blueberries & Vanilla Cream {S}

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I’ve been following trim healthy mama style of eating for a year and a half.  Using coconut flour was new to me, until about a year ago. It can be temperamental. It doesn’t follow the normal rules of baking/cooking. But don’t let that scare you – simply follow my easy peasy recipe and you will be nom nom noming on some delicious coconut pancakes for breakfast or lunch. Please note that this recipe doesn’t have a load of protein. You could add half a scoop of Whey Protein Isolate (WPI) if you wanted to… or you could have a Fat Stripping Frappe (FSF) for morning/afternoon tea.

I’ve found that my body functions best when I have {S} breakfasts. If I do have an {E} breakfast, it is usually only a very small serve. E breakfasts seem to affect my blood sugar levels in a way that makes me slightly dizzy, light-headed and feeling spaced out. But a gal can only eat fried eggs, boiled eggs, omelet, scrambled eggs and frittata so many times before it becomes monotonous, eh? Enter… Coconut pancakes!

 Coconut Pancakes with Blueberries & Vanilla Cream

Serves 1 (with 2 pancakes)

  • 1 egg
  • 1 TB coconut oil
  • 1 Tsp Natvia or other plan approved sweetener
  • pinch of sea salt
  • 1 TB coconut flour
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
  • 40ml coconut milk (to cut about 8grams of fat content of this meal you can use unsweetened almond milk instead)
  • 1/4 – 1/2 cup blueberries (as many as you like but to keep this as an S do not exceed half a cup)
  • 40 – 50 ml cream or Greek Yogurt seasoned with 1/2 tsp Vanilla extract and a pinch of Natvia
    1. Mix egg, coconut oil, Natvia, salt, coconut flour and coconut link in a blender, stick blender or magic bullet.

    Four Things I Want In My Life

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    I don’t do New Year resolutions and haven’t for quite some time. And yet here I am going to post a list of things that I’d like to either achieve, work on or try. But don’t be fooled into thinking it has anything to do with the New Year. It’s just timing. We’ve had our tree-change. A major family crisis also happened. One that has affected both John and I physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially and in any other way that I can’t think of how to express. You’ll have to stay tuned into future posts for more information on that one.

    I miss reading books

    I read all day. Online. It’s not the same. Even great blog posts don’t simmer in my mind as much as reading a whole book. I want to read more books.

    I started a new novel yesterday and even though I’ve wanted to read it for a few years, it just didn’t hold my interest. But I’ll persevere a little longer. What did catch my eye was an autobiography. So I paid $1.99 for it and downloaded it to my Kindle app. That’s a start.But I’m very far away from what I used to read – I’d have at least three different types of books on the go at any given time.…

    500 Words Writing Challenge

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    I am always running behind. And so I’m late to the 500 Words Writing Challenge.

    Usually this would annoy me to the point where I wouldn’t even bother starting. But I’m learning to work through the attitude of perfectionism, which is ironic because on the outside nothing I do looks perfect – it’s a mind thing.

    And so I’m nine days late. And [gasp!] I’m not even going to try and catch up! It’s okay though… Jeff Goins has given me permission.

    To be honest, this is an experiment. I have no idea what I will even write about! Nowadays, I usually write about marriage, motherhood or mess and of course, ‘mess’ includes everything and anything that I want to write but can’t be bothered to categorise. If only real life could so easily be categorised. If only life situations would respect the categories that I put them into!

    And so my apologies go out to those who may be expecting some profound thoughts clothed in fine literary robes. It’s not likely to be the case. But I do promise to stay fairly well on track and not bombard you with too many grandbaby photos, urban legends, conspiracy theories or totally wacky theology.…

    I Am A Good Mum

    Part of our family in 1999

    I know what it’s like to feel like a failure as a mother. Having a prodigal challenged every belief I had about God, man, myself, my husband, my educational and parenting philosophies. For too many years I felt like it was all my fault. If only I had done better, made fewer mistakes, been more attentive, prayed more, played more, laughed more or disciplined more then surely things would have turned out differently. Yeah?

    Nowadays I am confident about one thing.

    I was a good mum. I did my best. I am a good mum and I’m still doing my best.

    I didn’t choose for my child to go AWOL. I didn’t want it or work toward it. It happened anyway. But it’s not my fault. I worked hard to be the best mumma I could be. I devoted my time and energy to developing relationships with my kids, to educating them, to meeting their emotional, physical, spiritual needs. I focused on reaching their heart. I applied myself to creating a warm, loving atmosphere in the home. And I loved my husband, the kids dad.

    Every fibre of my being screamed and rebelled against what was happening. Shattered dreams, not only for the beloved prodigal child but also for the other children who were affected.…

    My Journey with Health – Loose THM style

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    Over the years I have written at length about my journey with health and fitness. It has been an ongoing battle for me and I have often felt like I was paddling a canoe upstream.

    I’ve tried juicing, green smoothies, lots of raw foods, coconut oil and more. I’ve read and tried BodyTrim, Jenny Craig, Dukan Diet, The Maker’s Diet, Nourishing Traditions, Eat Fat to Lose Fat, Changing Habits Changing Lives, and then some!

    I know that many carbs and grains do not sit well with my family – but how to know the difference between them?  How to prepare meals for the whole family when I’m the one one who needs to limit those carbs? We lived on pasta, rice, flour products, potatoes, rice and bread for years. Especially when you’re a wog family like we are. (Um, look at the name of my url – priolo – Italian – Western Oriental. Say no more.)

    Everything is permissible, but not everything is helpful.
    1 Corinthians 10:23

    It’s been 12 months now. I have lost 10kgs although weight loss has been an unexpected bonus. My motivation was health. And I’m happy to report that I have indeed experienced an increase in my health.…